
Denial. At first it may seem impossible for you to understand what happened. You may not even believe it.
Anger. You may be angry with yourself, your partner or anything else that has caused it.
Feelings of guilt. You may think you could have prevented it by paying more attention.
Depression. Your pain and sadness can make you depressed. These feelings will go away with time. However, if the symptoms of depression persist, you may need to seek professional help.
Acceptance. Each step in your grief brings you closer to acceptance. You will never forget your baby, but with this acceptance your pain will lessen a little. You may get stuck at one of these steps on the road to acceptance. Feelings of anger or guilt may prevent you from moving forward. Events such as gifts for your baby or seeing a newborn baby can make it difficult. But be careful to stay away from these things until you feel ready.
Towards recovery
We have some advice for you to make your recovery easier. Please try to do what you think will help. Make your own decisions. Friends and loved ones may suggest that you get rid of pregnancy clothes or baby things that remind you of your baby. However, you need to decide for yourself. If you don’t feel ready to remove them, give it more time.
Keep the memory of your baby alive. You can name your baby. You can wear a small ornament, plant a tree or make a memento in memory of your baby. If you lost your baby towards the end of your pregnancy, you can keep the ultrasound pictures.
Try to take it slowly. Your days will get better and better. If you feel overwhelmed thinking about the future, try to focus on the present.
Take care of yourself. Try to rest and eat a healthy diet. Set aside some time for exercise and physical activity.
Postpone important decisions. If possible, postpone important decisions such as buying a house or changing jobs because you are not well both physically and mentally.Talk to your partner. Men and women experience grief differently. Do not expect your partner’s grief to be the same as yours. Be open with each other and share your feelings sincerely.
Keep a diary. Writing down your thoughts and feelings can help ease your pain. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Your friends and loved ones may not know how to help you or what to say. Tell them when you need their support. Tell them if you want to talk about your baby or if you want to keep your baby’s memory alive. Join support groups. You may find it comforting to talk to women who have already had a pregnancy end. You can even find it on the internet.
Hopes for the future
Most women whose pregnancies end go on to have another pregnancy without any problems and have a baby. Once the pain has eased, you can talk to your partner about a new pregnancy and try again. A new pregnancy can take your mind off your sadness and give you hope for the future.